By Finder Blogger: Andrea McKenna
Well, not exactly. I wouldn't really call them "resolutions".
You see, it’s the first week of the New Year and I keep hearing about friends who have already broken their New Year’s resolutions to do a variety of things, such as to stop eating cheese, work out every day, stop starting difficult DIY projects, or quit drinking for the month. Are you one of these people? If so, maybe you need a shift of focus. Or, at least, in vocabulary.
In my world as a yogi, we talk more about intention versus resolution. While the words do qualify as synonymous, there are nuances. For example, resolutions are resolute, meaning a harsher plan to stop doing something outright. It sounds very black and white, and if you fail then the resolution is over.
Meanwhile, intention is softer. It’s more a plan to make a change. And if you fail, then you can fall back on that intention to make new plans to attain the goal.
I know there's a saying that goes “the road to hell is paved with good intentions”, but I’ve never been entirely comfortable with that damnation. What’s wrong with continuing to have good intentions? It is at least a positive effort.
For myself, I have a few intentions for the year:
- I am taking an online course on how to communicate like a Buddhist to hopefully have less arguments in 2018. I also just want to have a more productive verbal relationship with my family. It’s no secret that I can be a bit abrasive. Time to soften up with this intention.
- My goals for weight and fitness have not usually coincided with the New Year, but this time it does, and I’ve made the intention to work on adding small changes to meet my goals. For starters, I’m tracking water and food intake, as well as daily steps taken. Experts say these trackers can be very effective!
- I feel strongly that I need challenge myself this year to learn something new. So, I am putting out the intention of starting a martial arts practice. As I hit my late 40s this year, I am concerned about regaining some lost mobility. This is my intention to work on it and maybe audition for the next Star Wars movie as some momma warrior who can kick ass with a staff.
Well, I supposed three intentions for the year is enough. And on that point, you are already enough. You don’t always have to make huge, sweeping, severe changes to be a better person.
I hope you can be realistic with your intentions/resolutions so that you can truly achieve them in 2018. Overall, please consider having the intention of going easy on yourself. If you fail a little, just keep the intention to start over. It’s never too late to start again.
About Andrea McKenna
image: E. Chiau
Andrea McKenna Brankin is journalist and author from the United States who lives a full life with bipolar disorder. Her book, Bipolar Phoenix, is awaiting a publishing contract. She is also currently a volunteer at the DaySpring Residential Treatment Centre for teen girls in Singapore, providing befriending-family support, therapeutic writing and rugby coaching.